Inconceivable Notion
Did you read the book? Did it help? I finished the book last week. I bought it and read it in two days...and wanted to read more after I had finished. While my story is quite different to those in the book, which of course it would be, it was good to feel less alone. I now know that there are women and men out there who share some of my experiences and feelings about being childless in our society. However, a new twin pregnancy has been announced in my workplace. She is a colleague,friend, and for a while fellow IVF'er. She continued with treatments after it was suggested that I give up. She and her closest friend at work took me aside and told me the news. I'm very happy for her as she has had such a struggle to become pregnant. She will be a wonderful mother. She's quite a bit younger than me but its still hard. I can sense a uneasiness between us now, which is disappointing and I acknowledge that it was me who felt a growing tension with the news and I've allowed it to become a wall between us. I'm disappointed in my reaction. It's wrong, immature and pointless and I know that I need to get over it for both our sakes.
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"Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen."
Albert Einstein
Hi MysSummer I'm one of the
Hi MysSummer
I'm one of the people in the book. My case is a bit different I guess and I won't go into it here but I just wanted to say that whether a person is childless by choice or not, it's always a bit awkward when friends start having children; I have no idea why this is but I do know it comes from both sides. I remember a few years back a dinner with friends from uni who were talking about having kids and the wife made some throw away comment saying "at least we're having children". That hurt and annoyed me, particularly since they didn't have any yet and still don't..(!?) Awkward doesn't really describe the dead silence after that comment though and the dinner went on, but wasn't particularly enjoyable.
It's like a club you aren't asked to join or can't belong to! Who wants that?
You're not immature, and it's how you feel - you can't control that, you can only control your behaviour. I've learned that sometimes you have to feel bad before you can feel better; allow yourself a bit of time to grieve and feel a bit envious and then you'll be able to move on and even feel happy for her.
I hope it works out for you ♥